So as always my weekend was pretty darn eventful! Heck it pretty much started on Thursday! I went out and partied and hung out with friends as usual, even stepped out the box a little… Thursday Mr. Isolation came into town… he has kinda taken a permanent leave of absence from his job so I guess he’ll be in Atlanta more but after today’s event I don’t care anymore, but Thursday was Secret Santa exchange at the job… everyone knows I love pink and apparently someone thought it was a good idea to give me pink stud earrings! Let me just say not a good look at all… but I wore them on Friday to show that I was appreciative. But I went out with Mr. Isolation on Thursday went to a spot that majority of everyone goes… we had an OK time… I guess. One guy approached me in his face, for some reason he thought about bucking the dude. Why, I don’t know as he has often reminded me- we aren’t together! But I think I really showed him in a way that my heart isn’t there anymore, there is a lot of distance there. I also met a guy there who seems pretty cool, I finally contacted him today because I didn’t give him my information and we spoke briefly. He is a Professor at both Emory and Strayer University, surprising because he looked really young, but I guess looks can be deceiving and only time will tell whether he will hang himself or not!
Fridays adventure consisted of getting together with some college friends. It was about 40 of us at a new lounge here! The best part about this night was that is was so warm so I was able to wear a little jumper that I had! Here’s one pic hopefully I will be able to find the rest there were at least a thousand taken by event photogs! This particular day Mr. LA and Mr. Isolation were in town- at the same time. Mr. LA was suppose to come through to the lounge but didn’t make it… Mr. Isolation did and he and I got into an argument- pretty bad from what I heard.. I don’t remember the details! But I ended up leaving that spot and going over to another spot that Mr. LA was and apparently my homegirl was rude to his friend and again I don’t know the details but Mr. LA made sure to tell me my homegirl was rude and that maybe she was having a bad night. I didn’t have the heart to tell him maybe your homeboy was lame! After leaving the spot from here I went home, Mr. LA was suppose to come over! I was kinda wasted though, I had soooo much to drink. But in preparation for him I left my door unlocked. At sometime I woke and saw Mr. Isolation at the foot of my bed. I think I went straight into panic mode- like WTF? Why are you here? Mr. LA is coming over- blah, blah, blah! I even called Mr. LA while Mr. Isolation was standing there to confirm his arrival to my house. Mr. Isolation left right after and I went back to sleep in my bed by myself. Which turned out to be good because I had to make a visit to the porcelain god due to my overindulgence! But tonight is the night I stepped outside of the box, I actually exchanged info with a guy wearing a grill and about 3 chains. I asked him for a card and surprisingly he had one that stated he was a jeweler specializing in you guessed it- GRILLZ!
So Saturday came! Boy talk about a headache! I went ahead and got up ran my errands, met my friend for lunch and started calculating my plans for this day. Tonight was the night I was suppose to get with Swagga 3000 we had talked but never mentioned the plans and I definitely decided in my mind it wasn’t gonna be me, but after my friend called wanting to get out I went ahead and asked him if we were still on. I was a little disappointed by his response but respected the honesty. He suggested that we should get together when he came back from the holidays because he was low on funds! I was ok with this because he could have just assumed that I was gonna foot the bill. So that’s what happened with that… and with the cancellation of those plans my friend and I ended up with Mr. Grillz and his crew at a club in VIP sipping on Champagne, Hennessey, and Corona’s. It was so hood and this nagga was soooo disrespectful! I think he might have hollered at almost every chick in the venue! After about an hour and half I couldn’t take anymore I left his trifling arse! He followed me out of the club too and couldn’t understand why I was pissed!! He thought he was well within his rights! I went home intoxicated and pissed. This night Mr. LA came over we didn’t get down with the get down but instead talked. He told me our situation wasn’t based on sex… all I could do was smirk…. he thinks his a$$holeish nature is okay too! So another night I went to sleep untouched.
Hallelujah its Sunday I am tired and all I wanna do is sleep, relax, and get ready for tomorrow. Instead I was getting ready for my friends boyfriends Christmas party and watching Alice in Wonderland. In hindsight I’m glad I went! I had a great time met two guys here a bail bonds man and another guy who didn’t tell me his occupation (should this be my clue?). Also Mr. Isolation popped up here 
it’s like he knows when I am vulnerable and other stuff. So he comes we laugh and he acts like Friday never happened, heck I guess I do too! And oh yeah Mr. Essence canceled on the plans talking about wait until after the holidays when I don’t have my daughter…. WTF? As if! DELETE
Today all heck breaks loose I find out this nagga (Mr. Isolation) has went on a vacay to St. Kitts with another female and has posted the pics onto Facebook….. W-T-F???? And when I call to rant and rave he just reminds me we aren’t in a relationship and that he is in his rights! After the series of events this wknd and especially today I have decided I am tired of hearing about everyone else’s rights and will definitely be making sure MY RIGHTS are known and understood. As for Mr. Isolation, the bridge was burned today…. it’s so hard to say good bye, but it’s easy to say hello to new beginnings.
My Friends and I on Friday!
So yesterday I became an Independent Beauty Consultant with Mary Kay…. I know, but I am looking at it from the business aspect and think that the Director I have will be great! Anyway! Yesterday after I finished I got a call from Swagga 3000! Talk about being happy and elated! Even though we have talked every single day… either through text or call. He was suppose to have plans to hit up a live music spot but those unexpectedly fell through… At the time I was in the mall pretending to be Christmas shopping but I got sidetracked and saw cutesy things for myself. Anyway, we talked a little bit then I ceased the day and just asked if he wanted to meet for drinks. Of course he said yes and we met at a cute little french bistro inspired place called Intermezzo’s. I was a little reluctant to meet there at first because in college I killed this place and was a little burnt out from it, but I decided to oblige him and meet him there. Come to find out this is one of his favorite chill places in Atlanta…. this little piece of information definitely let me on the type of person he is and what he might enjoy. I got there first and took the liberty of ordering drinks for us. I didn’t have my usual Ciroc Gimlet but instead chose a more sexier drink- a Kir Royale (if you haven’t tried this and you like Champagne definitely put this on the list), and based on our time at the party I met him at I ordered a Ciroc and Lemonade for him. He was quite surprised when he got there and saw that I remembered what he preferred or liked. (I think I earned plenty of cool points for that one)
During the date we talked, got to know a little more about each other. Discovered that we both hated massages. I also found out that this place was his first date spot, where he will usually have wine and dessert…. don’t know how I feel about that tidbit of information cause I ain’t trying to be like the rest… but I told him well I guess we aren’t on a date cause we aren’t sipping wine and we are not eating cheesecake. He quickly countered my argument and said, “Yes we are, you needed your drink of choice and I needed mine.” He followed this up with his signature wink and smile…. GAME. But I liked being with him, talking and just smiling at each other… we finally left around 11:30 he walked me to my car he gave me another bear hug and a nice peck on the lips… so yes there was no tongue action! I like him just still being weary because he just got of a relationship 8 months ago and may not be completely healed. Our next date is Saturday, this time I will be taking him to my fav date spot… introduce him to the seductions of Holly!! 
This week has been full of sooooo much… STUFF!! Lets see I think I will do a recap day by day…..
Monday Mr. 40 cancelled our date plans due to his daughters concert… His actions combined with Mr. Essence have led me to think about men with kids may be deal breakers for me…. still deciding on this thought but its there. I don’t know if I am ready for it….
Tuesday text talked to Mr. LA may be going to see him in a couple of weeks… I don’t know still deciding… I really need to just cut things off with him. I don’t think he will make it into 2009, especially because he kinda reminds me of Mr. Isolation with some of his actions and I swear I have to many Deja Vu moments with him. It’s like he will say things that Mr. Isolation has said before and I definitely don’t want to add another Mr. Isolation to the team! It just sucks cause I thought he was soooooo different…. Oh well. Did meet a guy this day… a 2520 (workcite Comeback Girl), a pilgrim, who asked me out on a after work date at Bluepointe. It would’ve been cool if homie hadn’t started the party before I got there. He was tossing back Scotch Doubles like he didn’t have anywhere to be the next day! He works for Merrill Lynch so most of the conversation dealt with financial things not really too much personal conversation going on. I definitely changed his name in my phone to Wino….
Wednesday…. good ole hump day! This day the highlight was finding out Mr. Isolation has been reading my blog! This very blog you are reading right now! (Hey there honey! Hope you enjoy! 
) Don’t know how I feel about it just yet, but the kicker was that he said he was showing me support! Also he wanted to let me know he was going to St. Kitts for some festival… by himself. That shyt I don’t believe, but I know him and I know he ain’t paying for a chick to go with him. So in my mind I am thinking he is either meeting somebody down there or someone may have treated him to the vacay. Mr. Essence still had not set a date for this date that he cancelled… and he has his Toy Drive Christmas party Saturday that he invited me to on last week. Another kicker for today was that the girl who hit me insurance company deemed the diminished value for my car at $478!! The damage she did was almost $7000 and my car is an ‘08!!! And the adjuster told me that the diminished value was not negotiable! I immediately contacted my lawyer to let him in on this bamboozlement and win the battle for me!
Thursday…. Got my car back from the body shop… and these naggas didn’t even fix it right! They drained my battery and I was left stuck at my chiropractor. Luckily I have roadside assistance so I was able to get my car jump started!!
Friday- TGIF! I took my car to the dealership first thing that morning!! But soon the day got better and the weekend started out with a bang!! My Dad came into town put together a desk for me and also brought me some of his tasty chili! After meeting him I went to happy hour at Peppers this great little eastbumbafcuk place that has $5 crab legs and they are actually GOOD!!! The next stop was to an anniversary party for an alumni Kappa chapter! It was here that I met a new character for my soap opera life. My friend introduced us… she knew all the Nupes that were there due to her husband being one and a member of that chapter. I think Imma call him Swagga 3000 until I can think of something else more catchy or cutesy! He was soooo swaggerific and full of charm! We probably exchanged numbers within the first 30 minutes of meeting each other. He was such a freaking cutie and so freaking charming. Very PDAish too which I don’t know how to feel about since I’m not too touchy feely especially with someone new… But we had a great time and soooomany people took pics of us and one of my friends homegirls kept asking him did he get my number. Another highlight of the evening was another Kappa that I use to talk to was there and he was soooooo making sure to be in my presence. I mean like all in my face and had the nerve to tell me before I left that I could come through to his house if I wanted to… I gave him a nice smile and simply said… I’m sure your girl is taking good care of you and walked off. Where in the hell does he get off thinking that I would even go there especially after what happened between us!!
Saturday… Due to the amount of alcohol I consumed on Friday I completely forgot about my breakfast date that I had planned with an old friend during his layover… When I came in the house on Friday the first thing I did was put my ringer on silent. Thank God I just so happened to look at the phone when he sent his text telling me he had landed!! I was running around my house like a chicken with my head cut off!! But I got ready and made sure I was looking cute because it had been almost a year since the last time I had seen him! So I got to the airport we left and had breakfast at the cutest little breakfast spot. We talked and made plans to get up when I came to Chicago…. it was fun being on a "date" with him. I forgot how much he made me laugh and made me feel special…. but I don’t think it could work now especially with him being in another city…. So after I dropped him off then sent a text to Swagga 3000 and from that point on we were on a text marathon that lasted from 11:00 am to 11:00 pm when he met me up at a spot that I was at with some friends. When he came in he looked soooooo nice… he had just left a fraternity function and still had on his suit.. And he was definitely wearing it well! He didn’t drink but I did… he showed me a lot of attention and was very doting… I must say I loved it… At one point I looked at my phone and he had sent me a couple of texts telling me how pretty I was looking… now I’m not narcissistic but that definitely had me smiling… After that we all (me, my friends, and him) went to the Waffle House. When he had stepped away to go to the bathroom one of my friends homeboys told me he definitely could tell he liked me and that he seemed pretty cool… I like Swagga 3000 but imma keep the love locked down as well as the draws for a minute, mainly because he just got out of a relationship 8 months ago and I am not trying to be the rebound…. so in the meantime I will multi-task that ass and have fun & get to know him….
Sunday… today… Getting over the slight hang over I might have from the wine, text talking to Swagga 3000, and went into work just to put in a little grind time….
P.S. I did not go to Mr. Essence Christmas Party and will definitely assume that his dating dilemma is due to his actions and not the women in Atlanta….
So Mr. Essence and I didn’t have the date at all. I received a text while at work that he wasn’t going to be able to make it on Sunday and that maybe we could do it another day this week…. I was kinda bummed because I had gotten my little feelings all involved and ready to see what this nagga was talking about, but I didn’t let it show I just replied with it’s okay we can have drinks when you cook my meal …. He owes me a home-cooked meal since I won the bet on the Florida vs. Alabama game. His reply to that was ,”Cool! What do you not eat? Red or White wine?” I simply let him know I don’t do chitterlings (or anything in relation) and I don’t do White Zinfandel (I’m too grown for that)…. We went back and forth a little through text… still not setting a tentative date (this really irks me because I really don’t do last minute dates/plans with men). But I did become enlightened that he has two kids- girls ages 12 and 13, and not by the same woman. One is in South Carolina where he is from and the other is here in Atlanta. This gets me to thinking about his article because I remember he mentioned that he use to play professionally overseas I am kinda guessing that his luck on the women is karmic because we know how some professional athletes are- big-headed…. Now we just gonna wait for him to set the dinner date…. if he doesn’t then next Sunday I will probably delete him from my phone.
So since my original plans were canceled I went out to the mall with one of my homegirls… we did a little shopping and decided to go to Hooters. One thing I can say is I have found where a good bulk of men are in Atlanta on a Sunday- Hooters in a part of town I rarely ever venture out to! So now I’m gonna have to make it my business to travel there at least once a month ! Mr. 40 who I met at Old School Saturday came through… I sent him a text just casually saying I was in his neck of the woods… next thing I know he’s asking where and can he stop by. I’m like sure because I forgot what he looked like anyway and I am sure he didn’t remember what I looked like either!! I met Mr. 40 about 3 weeks ago at a monthly event called Old School Saturdays. We peeped each other before going in- he was parking and I was walking with my girls. We made eye contact then but didn’t talk or exchange numbers until I was leaving at the end of the night. He was still cute as I remembered and definitely not looking 40 (hence the name Mr. 40)! We have a date tomorrow evening- will it be canceled??? Lets see…. as the world turns….
So I am a little frazzled because Mr. Essence has postponed our little first date to this evening over drinks… I’m kinda pissed because I was looking forward to Murphy’s… guess I will have to wait until this evening… I did, however, go yesterday to pick up an outfit… I chose a cute little purple sweater dress that I will wear with my charcoal gray boots… I can’t wait to see what this man is like in person… will he talk like Mike Tyson, will he be rude and obnoxious, or sweet and gentlemanly as he said he was in his article. My hair is also different from what he saw in the pic I sent.. I have straightened it out… didn’t want to subject him to the unruliness of my curls… I’m still nervous and freaking rambling…. So far he thinks I’m cute and bubbly… guess that’s good.
So earlier this month I received the November issue of Essence with Beyonce on the cover via mail… Talking about excited because I was ready to hear about Bey and Jay and bask in some black love, especially since I don’t have any going on really of my own!! Anyway while flipping through I came across an article written about this guy who lived in Atlanta talking about how he has a hard time meeting women. That they don’t want a good guy, all they want are bad ones. And all the women he has met are gold diggers and etc. He was also saying that he know it wasn’t his approach because he was very respectful!! Astonished and wondering why the heck ain’t I ever met this negro!! I sent an email to the address they had for him! Of course you knew it was one Essence created! But first off this was my first time doing this but I was so intrigued and really wanted to know what is/was really wrong with him, because physically he is all together. So sent him an email asking where was he meeting this women and what was giving him this impression that they were gold diggers and etc. Well on Wednesday he responded!! At first I was like who the hell is this but I then saw in the subject line Re: Essence!! After that I responded and we went back and forth emailing. Today however he asked me to go to brunch on Sunday- my choice!!! Thinking about Murphy’s or Old Highland Bakery!
Coinkdikly Mr. LA text me asking about my day…. funny how naggas get the third eye…
I haven’t written in while but a lot has happened since the last post… I went to Charlotte saw both guys… actually had more fun Mr. Isolation and didn’t see Mr. LA until the day I left! WTF! Mr. Isolation and I have a very weird dynamic- it’s not always bad but when it is bad, it’s very bad. My main problem with him is his fear of commitment. I’ll be damned if I am going to play this pseudo-girlfriend role for another 3 years- yes I said 3 years. I feel after everything he and I have been through he should just naturally wanna give the single life bullshit up and be with me- for real. I use to feel like I was asking too much but freak that I have given too much into this part-time relationship. I swear I am working on the dear john eviction letter from my heart… it’s just taking some time. It’s like he knows when I am close to getting rid of his ass because he does something or says something that makes it a little harder to break the rope… But I gotta grow some balls and cut the shit loose cause it’s hazardous marked with a do not touch sign. And I am not trying to break this into 2009.
Mr. LA however is a fun, kiddish like person with some asshole tendencies. When I finally saw Mr. LA things were cool, but it was unexplainable. He feels like I ask too many questions and stress the situation more than I should; and that I don’t let it flow (found this out on his visit to Atlanta this past weekend). I don’t think I ask too many questions and I never ask him where you been and wher you going, but I may stress the situation a bit- only because I wanna get to know him and I feel like I may have screwed up when I screwed him . While he was here this weekend we talked and he said he liked me better when i wasn’t stressing and over-analyzing everything and being cocky… of course coming from him I took it as partial bullshit, but it did make me think about my actions and evaluate how I act/react in situations with guys. I mean I don’t want any guy to get the idea that I am trying to be wifed up tomorrow… I enjoy being single but I am swaying to wanting to be in a relationship, but not just any and not with just anybody.
