So since probably around the New Year and since I changed my facebook status, Mr. Isolation and I haven’t really been that tight… Now don’t get me wrong I wanted to end things and I wanted to stop the circle of hurt that was going on… Mostly me feeling like he was hurting me. But today I am here thinking about my anticipated date tomorrow with Mr. Bail Bondsman and listening to Corrine Bailey Rae wondering if I really took the punk way out or if I did it in a stand up girl way. I think Mr. Isolation is a cool person but he is not the right person for me to be dating or what not. I don’t think a relationship with us would be ideal- I could see us definitely doing underhanded spiteful things to one another just to prove a point. Just to give a break down… here are some things that have been happening in the last week. The breaking point really for me was his complete and utter disrespect of not only going on a Carribbean vacay with another woman but he posted the pics onto facebook as though to say- Top that batch!! It hurt… it really hurt and for the first time I really felt like I saw how he viewed me and what he felt about any history that we had. It was like what I valued and kept to my heart he completely degraded… But here are things that Holly has been doing since to make sure I guess the tie is kinda gone….
- Changed FB status to say I was in a relationship- within 20 mins I had a text asking was it a hoax (from him) and I said nope it’s real….
- On last friday he apparently tried to contact me to see if I was home- he texted and called around 3 AM (I saw this saturday morning). Mind you I had date 2 with Bail bondsman and I wasn’t home. On Sunday I found out he had actually came by my house and fell asleep in his car waiting on me…. Some people told me I should be alarmed by this, but I feel like he is not crazy and wont do anything crazy…. what do you think? He asked me what was I doing Friday and I just told him I was out and I didnt come home… he said I see and his attitude totally changed… like he got really sad and forlorn….
- On Wednesday evening he came by to pick up some things…. we talked but you could tell he just felt uncomfortable. While he was there my phone had rung a couple of times and I didnt answer, but when Mr. Bail bondsman called I picked up and held a conversation. He started putting on his coat to leave and told me he has never talked to another woman in front of me and I reminded him of his actions on Facebook and all the times he was texting other women while at my house…. In addition that we were not together (something he used all the time to defend his actions, even those of St. Kitts)
Im not regretting my decision and I dont’ want to go back, but I dont want to be messy and appear to be messy. Mind you I also never talked about Mr. Isolation to Mr. Bail bondsman… mostly because for what? Why am I gonna vent to him about anything dealing with another man. I do plan on asking him about his last relationship though tomorrow. Is it too soon? Or should I leave well enough alone?
I say leave well enough alone, Isolation is showing true bitchassness!! loves it!! get a live bruh move along and lemmie alone!!
Comment by AnitraClark — January 16, 2009 @ 1:30 pm
a life I mean get a life lol! I need an edit buttooooooooon!!
Comment by AnitraClark — January 16, 2009 @ 1:31 pm
Lol! I just wonder mik cause I aint neva seen this behavior before…and like I said I don’t wanna be messy…
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 1:32 pm
Its ok Hontie I think they all get like that when they realize the person they been shittin on is moving along.
it doesn’t have to be messy just stop responding to him, he will get the point.
Comment by AnitraClark — January 16, 2009 @ 1:37 pm
“it doesn’t have to be messy just stop responding to him, he will get the point.”
u right girlie!
Comment by Holly GoLightly — January 16, 2009 @ 1:38 pm
Id like to see him squirm myself lol
Comment by AnitraClark — January 16, 2009 @ 1:39 pm
Agrees with Mik. He seems to go out of his way to do hurtful things to you because he is severely tripping over his ego. You owe him NO EXPLAINATION! Just keep it moving.
Comment by Enchantment Passing Through — January 16, 2009 @ 1:41 pm
Mik! He is a squirming!!
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 1:43 pm
Jada I think I just had one of those did I do right days??
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 1:45 pm
Holly, girl you need to get like me….. Well, you know my situation of my ex and he actually changed his facebook status to engaged…. But anywho a friend of mine’s who is also a friend of his on facebook called me to talk about it and I was like I’m sorry but that is 08… I said this is 09 and I’m not bringing any previous issues into the new year….That’s what the Pastor preached about on watch night so I’m actually trying to do that and keep old issues just where they belong. In the past.
So girl Mr. Isolation is so 08.. Even though he tryin’ to creep back in there just tell him it’s a wrap ain’t no sense in adding another year…. So out with the old and in with the new.
Comment by 80's Baby — January 16, 2009 @ 1:47 pm
We all have those Hollies! You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t second guess yourself every now and again! Self reflection is the business!
Comment by Enchantment Passing Through — January 16, 2009 @ 1:47 pm
Ur right 80s I’m gonna read and meditate on those notes u sent!
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 1:50 pm
“Self reflection is the business!”
U r right, jada!!
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 1:52 pm
I’m thinking you shouldn’t even worry your cute little head about this one…. walk away… u don’t have to explain. When u explain, it gives them the chance to sneak back in.
**hold on, wasn’t I the same one preaching about telling someone how you feel?***
Good grief. I still stick with what I told ya to do though
Comment by Nicki Sunshine — January 16, 2009 @ 2:03 pm
Nicki u r right tho… I think for the situation I have always been talking about my feelings instead of walking away.
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 2:06 pm
LOVES THE SONG!
OK now that’s out the way.
U know my opinion on Iso…I think he has issues to deal with within himself and until that happens no little Holly.
Comment by Jac is a NATURAL WOMAN! — January 16, 2009 @ 9:33 pm
Yes he does jac! And like I said if somebody mama tell u leave them alone take heed!! Save urself! Lol
Comment by holly — January 16, 2009 @ 9:35 pm
lol holly thanks for putting the song up you rock!
Comment by anitraclark — January 18, 2009 @ 11:51 am
Thx mik for the song!!!
Comment by holly — January 18, 2009 @ 12:26 pm