Well since my last post a lot has happened! I guess it would being that my last post was about 2 wks ago! Lol! Well for one its official between Bailbondsman and I- we’re exclusive. I’ve even stopped counting our dates because the frequency picked up!! Lol! We are currently avging about 4-5 days of seeing each other outta a week. My roster has def dwindled… I have maybe 2 people I speak with via phone but time has been going to him and my new love- the gym!! I’m telling I’m getting it together in that department! And not that I was overweight but I was complaining and not doing shat!! But I’m happy thus far, there are no complaints and it feels easy and free flowing. Def doesn’t feel pushed. He is so chill too compared to me- the over-the-top hyper chick. He is truly showing me what it means to just relax. He also relates well to my kids (my dogs- Mimi and Pedro). His first meeting with them was thursday! They barked of course and carried on with their whining for 75% of the time he was here but not once did he complain or say do they always do that. He accepted them and they little spoiled flaws. He saw my daily confirmations (what I need to do for the day, what not to do, bible verses) and didn’t question it. By the way this was his first time at Chez Holly! I guess he liked the digs cause he came back on Saturday! Lol! But he accepted me and didn’t come in asking why is this and what are these. It was what it was. We are still in the honeymoon phase but we def have discussed expectations, deal breakers, and bad habits- and we’re still bringing up things we may have forgotten. We also discuss our values and views on world issues. And because of our different careers we are able to teach each other diff things- although he’s pretty familiar with investing. So far I’m enjoying the view on this yacht and can’t wait for the first port that we dock. I’m pretty convinced representatives are packing up.
As for Mr. MBA he’s still we talk but not that much, mostly through IM or text…. he’s a really sweet person with a great sense of humor and amazing goals!! Don’t when date 2 will happen. He had to reschedule our last date…
So do tell any thoughts? Advice? Feelings?
This week has been full of sooooo much… STUFF!! Lets see I think I will do a recap day by day…..
Monday Mr. 40 cancelled our date plans due to his daughters concert… His actions combined with Mr. Essence have led me to think about men with kids may be deal breakers for me…. still deciding on this thought but its there. I don’t know if I am ready for it….
Tuesday text talked to Mr. LA may be going to see him in a couple of weeks… I don’t know still deciding… I really need to just cut things off with him. I don’t think he will make it into 2009, especially because he kinda reminds me of Mr. Isolation with some of his actions and I swear I have to many Deja Vu moments with him. It’s like he will say things that Mr. Isolation has said before and I definitely don’t want to add another Mr. Isolation to the team! It just sucks cause I thought he was soooooo different…. Oh well. Did meet a guy this day… a 2520 (workcite Comeback Girl), a pilgrim, who asked me out on a after work date at Bluepointe. It would’ve been cool if homie hadn’t started the party before I got there. 
He was tossing back Scotch Doubles like he didn’t have anywhere to be the next day! He works for Merrill Lynch so most of the conversation dealt with financial things not really too much personal conversation going on. I definitely changed his name in my phone to Wino….
Wednesday…. good ole hump day! This day the highlight was finding out Mr. Isolation has been reading my blog! This very blog you are reading right now! (Hey there honey! Hope you enjoy! 
) Don’t know how I feel about it just yet, but the kicker was that he said he was showing me support! Also he wanted to let me know he was going to St. Kitts for some festival… by himself. That shyt I don’t believe, but I know him and I know he ain’t paying for a chick to go with him. So in my mind I am thinking he is either meeting somebody down there or someone may have treated him to the vacay. Mr. Essence still had not set a date for this date that he cancelled… and he has his Toy Drive Christmas party Saturday that he invited me to on last week. Another kicker for today was that the girl who hit me insurance company deemed the diminished value for my car at $478!! The damage she did was almost $7000 and my car is an ‘08!!! And the adjuster told me that the diminished value was not negotiable! I immediately contacted my lawyer to let him in on this bamboozlement and win the battle for me!
Thursday…. Got my car back from the body shop… and these naggas didn’t even fix it right! They drained my battery and I was left stuck at my chiropractor. Luckily I have roadside assistance so I was able to get my car jump started!!
Friday- TGIF! I took my car to the dealership first thing that morning!! But soon the day got better and the weekend started out with a bang!! My Dad came into town put together a desk for me and also brought me some of his tasty chili! After meeting him I went to happy hour at Peppers this great little eastbumbafcuk place that has $5 crab legs and they are actually GOOD!!! The next stop was to an anniversary party for an alumni Kappa chapter! It was here that I met a new character for my soap opera life. My friend introduced us… she knew all the Nupes that were there due to her husband being one and a member of that chapter. I think Imma call him Swagga 3000 until I can think of something else more catchy or cutesy! He was soooo swaggerific and full of charm! We probably exchanged numbers within the first 30 minutes of meeting each other. He was such a freaking cutie and so freaking charming. Very PDAish too which I don’t know how to feel about since I’m not too touchy feely especially with someone new… But we had a great time and soooomany people took pics of us and one of my friends homegirls kept asking him did he get my number. Another highlight of the evening was another Kappa that I use to talk to was there and he was soooooo making sure to be in my presence. I mean like all in my face and had the nerve to tell me before I left that I could come through to his house if I wanted to… I gave him a nice smile and simply said… I’m sure your girl is taking good care of you and walked off. Where in the hell does he get off thinking that I would even go there especially after what happened between us!!
Saturday… Due to the amount of alcohol I consumed on Friday I completely forgot about my breakfast date that I had planned with an old friend during his layover… When I came in the house on Friday the first thing I did was put my ringer on silent. Thank God I just so happened to look at the phone when he sent his text telling me he had landed!! I was running around my house like a chicken with my head cut off!! But I got ready and made sure I was looking cute because it had been almost a year since the last time I had seen him! So I got to the airport we left and had breakfast at the cutest little breakfast spot. We talked and made plans to get up when I came to Chicago…. it was fun being on a "date" with him. I forgot how much he made me laugh and made me feel special…. but I don’t think it could work now especially with him being in another city…. So after I dropped him off then sent a text to Swagga 3000 and from that point on we were on a text marathon that lasted from 11:00 am to 11:00 pm when he met me up at a spot that I was at with some friends. When he came in he looked soooooo nice… he had just left a fraternity function and still had on his suit.. And he was definitely wearing it well! He didn’t drink but I did… he showed me a lot of attention and was very doting… I must say I loved it… At one point I looked at my phone and he had sent me a couple of texts telling me how pretty I was looking… now I’m not narcissistic but that definitely had me smiling… After that we all (me, my friends, and him) went to the Waffle House. When he had stepped away to go to the bathroom one of my friends homeboys told me he definitely could tell he liked me and that he seemed pretty cool… I like Swagga 3000 but imma keep the love locked down as well as the draws for a minute, mainly because he just got out of a relationship 8 months ago and I am not trying to be the rebound…. so in the meantime I will multi-task that ass and have fun & get to know him….
Sunday… today… Getting over the slight hang over I might have from the wine, text talking to Swagga 3000, and went into work just to put in a little grind time….
P.S. I did not go to Mr. Essence Christmas Party and will definitely assume that his dating dilemma is due to his actions and not the women in Atlanta….
So earlier this month I received the November issue of Essence with Beyonce on the cover via mail… Talking about excited because I was ready to hear about Bey and Jay and bask in some black love, especially since I don’t have any going on really of my own!! Anyway while flipping through I came across an article written about this guy who lived in Atlanta talking about how he has a hard time meeting women. That they don’t want a good guy, all they want are bad ones. And all the women he has met are gold diggers and etc. He was also saying that he know it wasn’t his approach because he was very respectful!! Astonished and wondering why the heck ain’t I ever met this negro!! I sent an email to the address they had for him! Of course you knew it was one Essence created! But first off this was my first time doing this but I was so intrigued and really wanted to know what is/was really wrong with him, because physically he is all together. So sent him an email asking where was he meeting this women and what was giving him this impression that they were gold diggers and etc. Well on Wednesday he responded!! At first I was like who the hell is this but I then saw in the subject line Re: Essence!! After that I responded and we went back and forth emailing. Today however he asked me to go to brunch on Sunday- my choice!!! Thinking about Murphy’s or Old Highland Bakery!
Coinkdikly Mr. LA text me asking about my day…. funny how naggas get the third eye…
Tonight I had a get together at my house with two of girlfriends for a little fellowship over food and booze…. two great combinations. As always the topic was guys, I filled them in on the situation that occurred with Mr. Isolation last night and my great revelation regarding Mr. LA and in turn they anointed me with words of wisdom. Some things I knew but wasn’t putting into practice, but after talking to them and reading/participating in a certain blog today I definitely feel the need to change the game up. My girls words of wisdom were pretty much to “keep your heart three stacks” and not give in so easily to things… even if the guy is saying and doing everything you like don’t put your cards all the way out there. Their advice was to be up for the chase don’t make it easy… The topic of the blog today was women knowing their worth and not letting a man determine it for them. After these two insightful things and the situations with both Mr. LA and Mr. Isolation I have definitely decided to take a more active role to make sure that at the end of the day I am happy and not feeling like I am receiving the short end of the stick. The only thing is I hate playing games. I feel like I shouldn’t have to do this, but I guess if I want to be taken seriously and make sure that a man feels like he isn’t getting the best of me then I better start somewhere…. and there is no time like the present.
Carpe Diem! Cease the Day!
