Go Shawty its ya birfday!!

So Im not even worried about Vday with my boo my dilemma has been planning his birfday and how to celebrate… he turns the big 30!! I have had soooooo many things cross my mind, but it’s early for us and I dont wanna go over the top!! But what I may consider not over the top may be for some… I know I want to do dinner somewhere nice, intimate, and def swanky… and give him his gift… which I am currently thinking on these baby’s here!! THEY ARE JUST HAWT!!

Gotta love nice cuff links...

Prolly follow dinner with drinks…. but help me out!!! What can I do?? I dont wanna go over top but I love birfdays especially mine! And I love making big deals outta them!!

So what to do- HELP A SISTA OUT!!

Multi-Tasking & Making a PBF

Ohhh Boy!! I tell ya Bailbondsman really has this little southern girl swooning over his crooning!! And then enters Mr. JD getting my MBA (long name I know but cant think of anything catchy right now)!! Mr. JD/MBA came in the picture by way of Ms. Jolie Fatale and her task to make sure that little Holly is still multi-tasking the heck outta Bailbondsman!

So since my job revoked my already PTO I couldn’t go to DC and be in the moment…. I was sad and thought my Martin Luther “The King” weekend was not gonna be too good. Pretty much knew I would see Bailbondsman because we kinda have developed a trend… We made plans on Thursday to hang out on Saturday. This was gonna be our third date and he had cooked breakfast for me so I though he would have been nice to prepare dinner and bring it with me to his house. So I sent a little text asking what does he not eat. His reply was he couldn’t tell me right off but asked what did I have in mind… I say well I was thinking about making Baked Ziti. The next response kinda crushed me, he said No I’m good tonight on the cooking. But can I get a raincheck? I was like WTF? Does he know I don’t cook for everybody!! So I asked well are we still on? He said yes, just no cooking. So in my mind I am thinking this ninja must think I cant cook… HMPH! So I went ahead continued relaxing at home until it was time to get ready! So when I got to his house we chilled.. it was FREEEEZZING out! We watched some movies had some drinks… I asked him about me cooking and if he told me not to cook because he didnt think I could… well apparently he didn’t know what the dish was because he asked me what was in it… P.S. He’s a picky eater. It was a nice time the next day I got up and left for home, he had some work to finish on his house. This time I didn’t wait around for breakfast, I didn’t want him to think everytime I’m there I’m expecting him to fix me something to eat, but I did ask if he wanted me to bring him something. He said no and walked me to my car…. Ahhhhh I like him….

Sunday went by a little slow… I talked to the guy that Jolie set me up with, Mr. JD getting my MBA… Jolie had actually made the connection on last Wednesday but we still hadn’t met…. so he then asked if I wanted to meet for drinks… I was like sure lets go! He gave me the option of a place… he told me he liked a certain restaurant so I said hey why not go there! Now while getting dressed I realized that this was playoff Sunday and the last teams were playing, The Ravens and The Steelers. Now most of you know that in 2008 I vowed to learn the sport of football, mostly cause I know/knew NOTHING about it and second because men like it. I also love Ray Lewis and I wanted to see the game myself! So we met at the restaurant… it’s kinda funny cause I don’t know what he expected but we were both friends on facebook so I’m sure he saw ALLLLL my crazy pics… and I of course had seen his so I knew what to look for. He was just what I expected- tall, handsome, with a nice smile. So we sat down talked about a little of this and a little of that. Pretty much touched on everything and we had drinks…. a lot of drinks! We also talked about football. I told him I was attempting to learn the sport. So after mass drinking and me announcing that I hadn’t had dinner and probably needing to put something on my stomach we left. He walked me to my car, but on the way as we were talking and he mentioned needing to call Jolie and let her now I was fine it was then that I fell… just tumbled down… OMG!!! But he laughed thank God he wasn’t mortified. I don’t think he realized I had toooo many drinks… but we laughed, hugged. bidded each other adieu! We talked on the phone all the way until I got home. It was nice and sweet.. he was def a gentlemen!! THX JOLIE!!! I HEART YOU!! YOU ARE A MAID OF HONOR IF THIS GOES ANY FURTHER!! By the way he and I are going out tonight! Going for Hibachi!!

So it’s Monday, I wake up at 5 AM!!! Suffering from a hangover and and near death smelling the greasy food I consumed last night…. So I got up drunk some water and tried to  revive myself. In the meantime I started watching Love Jones…. awww such a classic. I started wondering who and where is my Darius Lovehall…. At about 1 I finally got up… I never made it back to sleep… But I got up and prepared myself to go to the MLK parade with my bestie… at least that where I thought I was going, but this a$$hole tricked me!! We ended up going to try and feed the hungry/homeless!!!! Now I have no problem giving back but d@mmit I wasn’t dressed and I was suffering from a hangover and had post-drunk hunger!!!!!!!! D@mmit I was the hungry!! But I sucked it up and attempted to do my duty got mankind. After the dogooderness we went for pizza and we talked and we really had a heart to heart. I like having a male as a bestfriend… he kinda gives that male insight on actions, thoughts, expressions. So we leave I go home and learn it’s suppose to snow!! So as a cutesy way I sent Bailbondsman a text saying, “Its suppose to snow tonight! Can I come cuddle with you?” The response I got was, “tonight isnt good still finishing up on the garage.” Pissed was the mood (He is remodeling a former garage in his home and turning it into another guestroom). I go over to my friends house and just hang out with her… I then start hearing Kanye’s Streetlights (this is his ring tone) he is calling me and saying he thought he would be finished doing what he was doing pretty late but he was actually done and that if the offer was still in place he would like for me to come over. I told him I would call him in 30 minutes, trying to play cool knowing I was all giddy inside… So I called back in 40 minutes, after I went home and gathered my things for work and told him I was on my way. So I got there and brother was there… I smiled and said hi. They were watching some program on TV.  Then brother left and it was just us. We talked more had some wine then went to sleep. At 5 am we woke up and started watching the pre-inaug coverage. I left at 7 and went to work….. No plans made for the wknd yet.

Oh yeah I left my hat at his house he hasn’t said anything about it yet, I guess he’s just holding onto it for the next time I see him….

Did I End It Right?

So since probably around the New Year and since I changed my facebook status, Mr. Isolation and I haven’t really been that tight… Now don’t get me wrong I wanted to end things and I wanted to stop the circle of hurt that was going on… Mostly me feeling like he was hurting me. But today I am here thinking about my anticipated date tomorrow with Mr. Bail Bondsman and listening to Corrine Bailey Rae wondering if I really took the punk way out or if I did it in a stand up girl way. I think Mr. Isolation is a cool person but he is not the right person for me to be dating or what not. I don’t think a relationship with us would be ideal- I could see us definitely doing underhanded spiteful things to one another just to prove a point. Just to give a break down… here are some things that have been happening in the last week. The breaking point really for me was his complete and utter disrespect of not only going on a Carribbean vacay with another woman but he posted the pics onto facebook as though to say- Top that batch!! It hurt… it really hurt and for the first time I really felt like I saw how he viewed me and what he felt about any history that we had. It was like what I valued and kept to my heart he completely degraded… But here are things that Holly has been doing since to make sure I guess the tie is kinda gone….

1. Changed FB status to say I was in a relationship- within 20 mins I had a text asking was it a hoax (from him) and I said nope it’s real….
2. On last friday he apparently tried to contact me to see if I was home- he texted and called around 3 AM (I saw this saturday morning). Mind you I had date 2 with Bail bondsman and I wasn’t home. On Sunday I found out he had actually came by my house and fell asleep in his car waiting on me…. Some people told me I should be alarmed by this, but I feel like he is not crazy and wont do anything crazy…. what do you think? He asked me what was I doing Friday and I just told him I was out and I didnt come home… he said I see and his attitude totally changed… like he got really sad and forlorn….
3. On Wednesday evening he came by to pick up some things…. we talked but you could tell he just felt uncomfortable. While he was there my phone had rung a couple of times and I didnt answer, but when Mr. Bail bondsman called I picked up and held a conversation. He started putting on his coat to leave and told me he has never talked to another woman in front of me and I reminded him of his actions on Facebook and all the times he was texting other women while at my house…. In addition that we were not together (something he used all the time to defend his actions, even those of St. Kitts)

Im not regretting my decision and I dont’ want to go back, but I dont want to be messy and appear to be messy. Mind you I also never talked about Mr. Isolation to Mr. Bail bondsman… mostly because for what? Why am I gonna vent to him about anything dealing with another man. I do plan on asking him about his last relationship though tomorrow. Is it too soon? Or should I leave well enough alone?

Promised Myself….

So I promised myself after Mr. Isolation I would be extra careful who I allowed in my space especially my heart… it’s kinda hard though after meeting Mr. Bailbondsman. I am really feeling him and thinks he is a good person for me. I’ve always felt that the person you are with should make you want to be better… and for me he does that. I know its to early to be saying this is my husband and ish… but I think he is definitely boyfriend material. I know Comeback…  I still need to multi-task until that becomes official, but I am really thinking about not mt’ing too hard that I miss out on this good thing (still figuring out what that means because I do like male attention- a lot). I am still learning him and his personality so I’m not gonna count the chickens before they hatch but he makes me feel good and I love the commonalities that we both share. I can’t wait to see what happens in our sitcome….’

P.S. Date 3 is happening this wknd- I will be cooking. So far I am thinking of preparing Dover Sole, probably some prawns, a rice dish or potato dish, and of course a vegetable. The dessert will consist of Key Lime Pie!

Any thoughts?? Any ideas?? I’m open and not easily hurt by comments

Are U Serious??

So as always my weekend was pretty darn eventful! Heck it pretty much started on Thursday! I went out and partied and hung out with friends as usual, even stepped out the box a little… Thursday Mr. Isolation came into town… he has kinda taken a permanent leave of absence from his job so I guess he’ll be in Atlanta more but after today’s event I don’t care anymore, but Thursday was Secret Santa exchange at the job… everyone knows I love pink and apparently someone thought it was a good idea to give me pink stud earrings! Let me just say not a good look at all… but I wore them on Friday to show that I was appreciative. But I went out with Mr. Isolation on Thursday went to a spot that majority of everyone goes… we had an OK time… I guess. One guy approached me in his face, for some reason he thought about bucking the dude. Why, I don’t know as he has often reminded me- we aren’t together! But I think I really showed him in a way that my heart isn’t there anymore, there is a lot of distance there. I also met a guy there who seems pretty cool, I finally contacted him today because I didn’t give him my information and we spoke briefly. He is a Professor at both Emory and Strayer University, surprising because he looked really young, but I guess looks can be deceiving and only time will tell whether he will hang himself or not!

Fridays adventure consisted of getting together with some college friends. It was about 40 of us at a new lounge here! The best part about this night was that is was so warm so I was able to wear a little jumper that I had! Here’s one pic hopefully I will be able to find the rest there were at least a thousand taken by event photogs! This particular day Mr. LA and Mr. Isolation were in town- at the same time. Mr. LA was suppose to come through to the lounge but didn’t make it… Mr. Isolation did and he and I got into an argument- pretty bad from what I heard.. I don’t remember the details! But I ended up leaving that spot and going over to another spot that Mr. LA was and apparently my homegirl was rude to his friend and again I don’t know the details but Mr. LA made sure to tell me my homegirl was rude and that maybe she was having a bad night. I didn’t have the heart to tell him maybe your homeboy was lame! After leaving the spot from here I went home, Mr. LA was suppose to come over! I was kinda wasted though, I had soooo much to drink. But in preparation for him I left my door unlocked. At sometime I woke and saw Mr. Isolation at the foot of my bed. I think I went straight into panic mode- like WTF? Why are you here? Mr. LA is coming over- blah, blah, blah! I even called Mr. LA while Mr. Isolation was standing there to confirm his arrival to my house. Mr. Isolation left right after and I went back to sleep in my bed by myself. Which turned out to be good because I had to make a visit to the porcelain god due to my overindulgence! But tonight is the night I stepped outside of the box, I actually exchanged info with a guy wearing a grill and about 3 chains. I asked him for a card and surprisingly he had one that stated he was a jeweler specializing in you guessed it- GRILLZ!

So Saturday came! Boy talk about a headache! I went ahead and got up ran my errands, met my friend for lunch and started calculating my plans for this day. Tonight was the night I was suppose to get with Swagga 3000 we had talked but never mentioned the plans and I definitely decided in my mind it wasn’t gonna be me, but after my friend called wanting to get out I went ahead and asked him if we were still on. I was a little disappointed by his response but respected the honesty. He suggested that we should get together when he came back from the holidays because he was low on funds! I was ok with this because he could have just assumed that I was gonna foot the bill. So that’s what happened with that… and with the cancellation of those plans my friend and I ended up with Mr. Grillz and his crew at a club in VIP sipping on Champagne, Hennessey, and Corona’s. It was so hood and this nagga was soooo disrespectful! I think he might have hollered at almost every chick in the venue! After about an hour and half I couldn’t take anymore I left his trifling arse! He followed me out of the club too and couldn’t understand why I was pissed!! He thought he was well within his rights! I went home intoxicated and pissed. This night Mr. LA came over we didn’t get down with the get down but instead talked. He told me our situation wasn’t based on sex… all I could do was smirk…. he thinks his a$$holeish nature is okay too! So another night I went to sleep untouched.

Hallelujah its Sunday I am tired and all I wanna do is sleep, relax, and get ready for tomorrow. Instead I was getting ready for my friends boyfriends Christmas party and watching Alice in Wonderland. In hindsight I’m glad I went! I had a great time met two guys here a bail bonds man and another guy who didn’t tell me his occupation (should this be my clue?). Also Mr. Isolation popped up here it’s like he knows when I am vulnerable and other stuff. So he comes we laugh and he acts like Friday never happened, heck I guess I do too! And oh yeah Mr. Essence canceled on the plans talking about wait until after the holidays when I don’t have my daughter…. WTF? As if! DELETE

Today all heck breaks loose I find out this nagga (Mr. Isolation) has went on a vacay to St. Kitts with another female and has posted the pics onto Facebook….. W-T-F???? And when I call to rant and rave he just reminds me we aren’t in a relationship and that he is in his rights! After the series of events this wknd and especially today I have decided I am tired of hearing about everyone else’s rights and will definitely be making sure MY RIGHTS are known and understood. As for Mr. Isolation, the bridge was burned today…. it’s so hard to say good bye, but it’s easy to say hello to new beginnings.

My Friends and I on Friday!

A Date w/ Destiny

So yesterday I became an Independent Beauty Consultant with Mary Kay…. I know, but I am looking at it from the business aspect and think that the Director I have will be great! Anyway! Yesterday after I finished I got a call from Swagga 3000! Talk about being happy and elated! Even though we have  talked every single day… either through text or call. He was suppose to have plans to hit up a live music spot but those unexpectedly fell through… At the time I was in the mall pretending to be Christmas shopping but I got sidetracked and saw cutesy things for myself. Anyway, we talked a little bit then I ceased the day and just asked if he wanted to meet for drinks. Of course he said yes and we met at a cute little french bistro inspired place called Intermezzo’s. I was a little reluctant to meet there at first because in college I killed this place and was a little burnt out from it, but I decided to oblige him and meet him there. Come to find out this is one of his favorite chill places in Atlanta…. this little piece of information definitely let me on the type of person he is and what he might enjoy. I got there first and took the liberty of ordering drinks for us. I didn’t have my usual Ciroc Gimlet but instead chose a more sexier drink- a Kir Royale (if you haven’t tried this and you like Champagne definitely put this on the list), and based on our time at the party I met him at I ordered a Ciroc and Lemonade for him. He was quite surprised when he got there and saw that I remembered what he preferred or liked. (I think I earned plenty of cool points for that one)

During the date we talked, got to know a little more about each other. Discovered that we both hated massages. I also found out that this place was his first date spot, where he will usually have wine and dessert…. don’t know how I feel about that tidbit of information cause I ain’t trying to be like the rest… but I told him well I guess we aren’t on a date cause we aren’t sipping wine and we are not eating cheesecake. He quickly countered my argument and said, “Yes we are, you needed your drink of choice and I needed mine.” He followed this up with his signature wink and smile…. GAME. But I liked being with him, talking and just smiling at each other… we finally left around 11:30 he walked me to my car he gave me another bear hug and a nice peck on the lips… so yes there was no tongue action! I like him just still being weary because he just got of a relationship 8 months ago and may not be completely healed. Our next date is Saturday, this time I will be taking him to my fav date spot… introduce him to the seductions of Holly!!

Day-By-Day

This week has been full of sooooo much… STUFF!! Lets see I think I will do a recap day by day…..

Monday Mr. 40 cancelled our date plans due to his daughters concert… His actions combined with Mr. Essence have led me to think about men with kids may be deal breakers for me…. still deciding on this thought but its there. I don’t know if I am ready for it….

Tuesday text talked to Mr. LA may be going to see him in a couple of weeks… I don’t know still deciding… I really need to just cut things off with him. I don’t think he will make it into 2009, especially because he kinda reminds me of Mr. Isolation with some of his actions and I swear I have to many Deja Vu moments with him. It’s like he will say things that Mr. Isolation has said before and I definitely don’t want to add another Mr. Isolation to the team! It just sucks cause I thought he was soooooo different…. Oh well. Did meet a guy this day… a 2520 (workcite Comeback Girl), a pilgrim, who asked me out on a after work date at Bluepointe. It would’ve been cool if homie hadn’t started the party before I got there.   He was tossing back Scotch Doubles like he didn’t have anywhere to be the next day! He works for Merrill Lynch so most of the conversation dealt with financial things not really too much personal conversation going on. I definitely changed his name in my phone to Wino….

Wednesday…. good ole hump day! This day the highlight was finding out Mr. Isolation has been reading my blog! This very blog you are reading right now! (Hey there honey! Hope you enjoy! )  Don’t know how I feel about it just yet, but the kicker was that he said he was showing me support! Also he wanted to let me know he was going to St. Kitts for some festival… by himself. That shyt I don’t believe, but I know him and I know he ain’t paying for a chick to go with him. So in my mind I am thinking he is either meeting somebody down there or someone may have treated him to the vacay. Mr. Essence still had not set a date for this date that he cancelled… and he has his Toy Drive Christmas party Saturday that he invited me to on last week. Another kicker for today was that the girl who hit me insurance company deemed the diminished value for my car at $478!! The damage she did was almost $7000 and my car is an ‘08!!! And the adjuster told me that the diminished value was not negotiable! I immediately contacted my lawyer to let him in on this bamboozlement and win the battle for me!

Thursday…. Got my car back from the body shop… and these naggas didn’t even fix it right! They drained my battery and I was left stuck at my chiropractor. Luckily I have roadside assistance so I was able to get my car jump started!! 

Friday- TGIF! I took my car to the dealership first thing that morning!! But soon the day got better and the weekend started out with a bang!! My Dad came into town put together a desk for me and also brought me some of his tasty chili! After meeting him I went to happy hour at Peppers this great little eastbumbafcuk place that has $5 crab legs and they are actually GOOD!!! The next stop was to an anniversary party for an alumni Kappa chapter! It was here that I met a new character for my soap opera life. My friend introduced us… she knew all the Nupes that were there due to her husband being one and a member of that chapter. I think Imma call him Swagga 3000 until I can think of something else more catchy or cutesy! He was soooo swaggerific and full of charm! We probably exchanged numbers within the first 30 minutes of meeting each other. He was such a freaking cutie and so freaking charming. Very PDAish too which I don’t know how to feel about since I’m not too touchy feely especially with someone new… But we had a great time and soooomany people took pics of us and one of my friends homegirls kept asking him did he get my number. Another highlight of the evening was another Kappa that I use to talk to was there and he was soooooo making sure to be in my presence. I mean like all in my face and had the nerve to tell me before I left that I could come through to his house if I wanted to… I gave him a nice smile and simply said… I’m sure your girl is taking good care of you and walked off. Where in the hell does he get off thinking that I would even go there especially after what happened between us!!

Saturday… Due to the amount of alcohol I consumed on Friday I completely forgot about my breakfast date that I had planned with an old friend during his layover… When I came in the house on Friday the first thing I did was put my ringer on silent. Thank God I just so happened to look at the phone when he sent his text telling me he had landed!! I was running around my house like a chicken with my head cut off!! But I got ready and made sure I was looking cute because it had been almost a year since the last time I had seen him! So I got to the airport we left and had breakfast at the cutest little breakfast spot. We talked and made plans to get up when I came to Chicago…. it was fun being on a "date" with him. I forgot how much he made me laugh and made me feel special…. but I don’t think it could work now especially with him being in another city…. So after I dropped him off then sent a text to Swagga 3000 and from that point on we were on a text marathon that lasted from 11:00 am to 11:00 pm when he met me up at a spot that I was at with some friends. When he came in he looked soooooo nice… he had just left a fraternity function and still had on his suit.. And he was definitely wearing it well! He didn’t drink but I did… he showed me a lot of attention and was very doting… I must say I loved it… At one point I looked at my phone and he had sent me a couple of texts telling me how pretty I was looking… now I’m not narcissistic but that definitely had me smiling… After that we all (me, my friends, and him) went to the Waffle House. When he had stepped away to go to the bathroom one of my friends homeboys told me he definitely could tell he liked me and that he seemed pretty cool… I like Swagga 3000 but  imma keep the love locked down as well as the draws for a minute, mainly because he just got out of a relationship 8 months ago and I am not trying to be the rebound…. so in the meantime I will multi-task that ass and have fun & get to know him….

Sunday… today… Getting over the slight hang over I might have from the wine, text talking to Swagga 3000, and went into work just to put in a little grind time….

P.S. I did not go to Mr. Essence Christmas Party and will definitely assume that his dating dilemma is due to his actions and not the women in Atlanta….

Hey Young World….

So Mr. LA has resurfaced… apparently this mofo went to Spain for week without even letting me know… would this be classified as rude? Should I look at this and take it as a character flaw? My cousin said no… especially cause we aren’t like that, but I am still kinda miffed at the situation, but he came through last night baring gifts and I welcomed him into my humble abode with open arms… It was great to be with him and it made me wish that he lived there and there wasn’t so much game playing going on. Like I feel like I have to dumb down my dating style to be on his level. It doesn’t feel like he is a 32 going on 33 year old instead its more like he is my age- 28! It’s kinda getting frustrating cause I’m starting to not be able to take him serious and that’s not good. I of course don’t want him to be serious 24-7 like Mr. Isolation, but I do want to be able to have serious conversations when it comes time for it… I guess I will just play it by ear and make my mind up soon before it becomes too hard to let him go. Maybe I am reading too much into the situation…

IT’S THE FINAL COUNTDOWN….

17 hours until the GMAT and I am scared SHITLESS!!

Doing The Happy Dance!!!

When I thought it couldn’t get any better happy news is falling out of the sky from everywhere!! First my presidential candidate has won and then I get news that my Alma Mater would love to have me back there to complete my second bachelor’s degree!! Could life get any better!! Yes it could if I can get a 700+ on my GMAT tomorrow and if Mr. LA would up and appear again!!!